Stories
We all have stories. They all have labels: funny, sad, happy, pleasant, ugly, difficult, peaceful, silly, cute, painful, joyous, adventurous, hard, loving, unkind, exciting, hurtful, devastating, awesome, amazing, and the list goes on.
So what do we do with all our stories? Sharing the delightful ones is always a blessing and remembering them can often bring even greater joy and pleasure. Then there are those painful ones that most of us want to put them into a dark, hiding place; ignore them in turning our backs on them; or dismiss them as though they never existed and hope they will just disappear like vapor or dissolve like ice, never to show their faces again.
But sadly, stories don’t work that way. We have been wounded and healing is needed, even if the story is from long ago. To heal, we have to bring the story out of dark and into the light. This usually is easier with a friend, mentor, or therapist alongside your journey. To choose a journey mate it is important that they are trustworthy and are committed to caring for your heart in the process. It is worthy to note that this is a two-fold journey: one, to return to the dark and retrieve your story and second, to bring them into the light to bring the healing desired. The two-fold journey is imperative to healing your heart and restoring your relationships whether that be God, you, others, or a combination. This journey is reflected in I Peter 5:10, “And the God of all grace, who called you to eternal glory in christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.” (NIV)
Grace and Peace to you as you begin your story-journey of restoration.
Roselene Coblentz
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